Where Do I Go From Here
So many changes have happened at work. The work itself is still the same, however, the supervisor (she calls herself the manager so I’m not sure which it is) has changed in so many ways.
She is beginning to drive me a little nuts. Yes, I realize that she could find this post and beat the crap out of me but I don’t think she would really care, to be honest.
She has been in this crazy relationship for a few months, calling me to tell me how awful he is, then turning around and going out on dates with him. I told her on Thursday to not call me when things go bad and he threatens her again. I cannot deal with someone who will have me pray for her safety then turn around and date him again after two days.
When we are at work, she acts a little crazy. I mean, she is fun and we do have a good time but there are times to be serious and get the work done and sometimes, that just doesn’t happen. Many times, I am left to do the work by myself and I really can’t say anything because she is my supervisor. I stay past my eight hours to do the work that needs to be done while she punches out as soon as her eight hours are up, if not before then.
She called and left me a voicemail an hour ago to tell me that she won’t be in at work tomorrow because she isn’t feeling better yet. (we were both feeling sick on Thursday) In the message she said that, “she knows she went out last night, she is feeling better but just not well enough to go to work and honestly, she just wants to stay home to spend the day with her boyfriend!”
Seriously?! How do you leave someone you work with a message like that?! It is so frustrating and I have begun to really dislike going to work. Every Sunday I want to literally cry at the thought of going in to work. I mean, I am leaving my family to go and work with this?! Is the money really worth it? So, I will be working by myself tomorrow so that she can spend the day with her boyfriend. Now, I know I was off on Friday but that was because work was slow and she offered for me to stay home. If I were to say anything about her staying home tomorrow, she would throw this in my face. I guess this is a problem with being friends with your co-workers…it’s easier to get away with things like this?!
I have been looking online at job listings. While I would hate to leave the other people I work with, if I found another job with the same pay and same work days, I would seriously consider leaving.
So, do you have any advice?!
The management knows about most of this stuff, they see it, they comment on it but nothing changes. I don’t know if they have said anything to her or not. I do know that the executive chef said stuff to her last week about her behavior and attitude toward work but I don’t think she took him seriously.
Mel says:
You need to report her, me thinks. Even go as far as playing the voicemail outloud to her boss. That is crappy. She is YOUR boss and not doing a very good job at showing an example of being responsible.
She wasn’t feeling well on Thursday…felt well enough to go out on Saturday…now feels sick again today (hangover).
I’d be furious.
Jen says:
First of all: WHAT. Is she YOUR supervisor? If so, it’s extremely inappropriate that she involves you so much in her personal life drama- especially when it interferes with both of your work lives. And even if she isn’t your supervisor, you have every right to say something to the management. It might not be easy (or fun… this coming from She Who Avoids All Confrontation At Any Cost!) but you are clearly being affected by it and it’s not fair to you. You have every right to be angry!
Burgh Baby says:
UGH! Pennsylvania is a horrible state to live in when it comes to stuff like this. Your best course of action is to document and report. Otherwise, it could come back to hurt you. It suuuuuucks.
Shynea @ Penny Pinching Diva says:
Hun, it’s about time that you go above her head. I have no idea how she got the position that she did with her lack of work ethics, but no one likes to go to work 40+ hours a week, get paid the amount of one person but have to pull the weight of two. It’s not fair to you, and it’s not fair the extra amount of time that you put in spending time away from your family.
I would make a meeting with her supervisor/boss. I would let them know that you enjoy working for the company, but that you will have to put in your resignation if something is not done about the working conditions that you have to put up with. Let them know truthfully, but bluntly, what has been going on. Yes, she’s your friend but that should be outside of work. When you’re at a job you should maintain professionalism at all times.
I am sorry that you are having to go through this. I have been down this road before and lost a friend/co-worker in the process. But when she made me start to dread coming to work because she was lazy and I knew that I would have to go above and beyond my pay means I decided enough was enough.
I’m here if you need to talk.
Take care,
Shynea
Melissa says:
Whoa. I have to agree with the others, you need to talk to someone above her, because her behavior (as your supervisor) is SO inappropriate. This is a difficult position she put you in, not just as a coworker but also as a friend… and you should not feel like you want to quit YOUR job because of it!
Hope it all works out. Hugs!